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The Do’s and Don’ts of Being a Bridesmaid

Fall wedding season is upon us. You’ve been asked by your friend to be a bridesmaid. What do you do? Below we have the “Do’s” and “Don’ts” of being a bridesmaid.


Support the bride in all decisions: Going wedding dress shopping with her? When her face lights up at a gown that isn’t really your taste, don’t interject. Her opinion is the only one that counts. Even though you will be the one wearing the bridesmaid dresses, same rules apply. Actually, the same rule applies for every single decision she makes. Just go with it and make her feel beautiful.

Pay for your bridesmaid dress, shoes, accessories and hair and makeup expenses: Yes, it’s pricey. At times, it’ll feel like you’re throwing money out the window, but it comes with the territory of being a bridesmaid. If you cannot afford it, don’t accept the role as a bridesmaid.
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Offer to help the Maid of Honor with bachelorette party and bridal shower planning: She is one person, and that’s a lot of planning. She may decline your help, but always, always offer.

Your ideas may not be used, but be sure to offer some!

Your ideas may not be used, but be sure to offer some!

Attend the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner: Also, try to attend as many other events as possible, but don’t stress if you have to miss the bachelorette party or bridal shower (unless you are the Maid of Honor, of course). The bride will understand if you are out of town and cannot afford it, but you should be at the rehearsal, and you should be on time.
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Get people up and dancing at the reception: Lead the party and show off your moves.


Roasting the bride: When it comes to any toast or speech at the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner or reception, don’t roast the bride. “Remember that time Katie drank an entire bottle of champagne in under 15 minutes and how she had to be babysat all night?” will effectively make everyone cringe. Keep it short and make sure it stays classy. (1)

Complaining about anything: It goes hand-and-hand with “Support the Bride,” but keep any and all complaints about the wedding process to yourself at all times.

Get drunk: Yes, it’s an open bar, and by all means, have a few drinks. Do not get wasted. Do not get sloppy. Remember: there is a photographer and videographer following you and the rest of the bridal party around all night. This will lead to instant regret.

Have any drama with other bridesmaids: You are all close to the bride, and she wants you all a part of her day. Even if you can’t stand each other, suck it up and put on a smile.
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What do you think, Elles? Any important “do’s” or “don’ts” I missed? Add yours below!


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